7 Things You & Your Partner Should Never Stop Doing For Each Other
We all start out our relationships with the desire to show our best selves in an effort to make our partner like us.
But once we settle in, it’s easy to let the the comfort of knowing our partner is already committed to us make us complacent.
Complacent by no longer doing the things we did to get them in the first place. Not realizing it’s those same things that will keep our relationship strong, fresh and fun in the long run.
So here are 7 things you and your partner should never stop doing for each other:
1. Complimenting Each Other
Compliments make us feel better. They put a smile on our face because they make us feel loved and valued, especially when they’re given to us by the person we love the most.
I’m sure you gave your partner plenty of compliments at the outset of your relationship. Why should that ever change?
Never stop telling her how much you love her smile. Never stop telling him how great he looks with that fresh haircut.
As long as they’re genuine, compliments never get old.
2. Expressing Gratitude
Everyone who knows me knows I can talk about gratitude until I’m blue in the face.
That’s because I see couples taking each other for granted all. the. time.
We all need to know that the effort we’re putting in to make the relationship work is being appreciated.
Although gratitude is often the first thing that goes out the window once we get comfortable with each other.
We assume our partner should already know we appreciate them ‘cause we told them that one time 8 months ago on Thanksgiving. But that’s not how it works.
Your partner needs to be reminded regularly. They need to know you see their efforts and don’t take them for granted.
So make expressing gratitude a habit in your relationship. It’s one of the quickest ways to make a huge impact.
3. Doing The Little Things
Bring your partner a cup of coffee mixed just the way they like it.
Leave them a love note in a place they’ll later find it when they least expect it.
Send them a random text that not only tells them you love them, but explains why you love them.
Doing the little things simply tells your partner that they’re still worth putting in the same effort to be observant and thoughtful you did to get them, even though you’re confident they’re committed and not going anywhere.
They add a youthful vibe to your relationship no matter how long you’ve been together.
4. Showing Interest In Each Other's Interests
Remember at the beginning when you were all excited about learning everything about your partner?
So you went to see cheesy movies, or played a sport you’ve never played before just because it made them happy?
Tap back into those the feelings of those days.
Tap back into the desire to get to know your partner so much that you're willing to try something you aren’t necessarily interested in, for the sake of getting to know what makes them excited and sharing those moments with them.
5. Being Kids
Never stop laughing, playing and being silly with each other.
There’s a time for work and taking care of serious relationship issues, but there’s also a time to lighten up and have some fun.
Unless you fell in love with your partner because of their ability to be dead serious all the time, chances are you value your partner’s playful side and good sense of humor.
And that’s the thing about being playful and silly. In those moments you’re showing a real part of yourself. You’re not being calculated and worrying about how you’re seen or about being judged or criticized.
So don’t take everything so seriously. Have fun. Be kids and make the most out of those moments. Not only does it keep things fresh, but it keeps things authentic.
6. Being Attractive
Disclaimer: I’m not suggesting you have to maintain some unattainable perfect body type that the media portrays as ideal. But present yourself in the way you did to get your partner.
No one wants to be hoodwinked into being with someone they think keeps themselves looking good, just to have that person give up a couple years in.
Maybe that means maintaining a healthy lifestyle and taking care of your body, practicing good hygiene or putting in an effort to maintain a nice appearance for your partner.
The fact is, we make these same efforts every day to look presentable in public for strangers. Doesn’t your partner deserve the same effort?
Again, this is not about being perfect, it’s just about showing your partner you’re willing to put in the same level of care into how you look to keep them as you did to attract them.
7. Finding Out Each Other’s Love Language And Speaking It Often
Just because you’re making an effort to love your partner doesn’t mean they feel it. What many couples don’t often realize is that how we want to be loved varies from person to person.
While receiving gifts makes you feel loved, it doesn’t mean your partner feels the same way. In fact, gifts might have little or no value to your partner at all. Maybe they only feel loved when you spend quality time with them.
So while they might appreciate your effort, over time, they’ll end up feeling neglected and unloved if you only choose to love them in the way you like to be loved.
Which is why it’s important to learn each other’s love language and speak it often. It ensures they feel loved, appreciated and fulfilled within the relationship.
So how are you guys keeping up with the suggestions on this list? Which ones do you need to work on? Leave a comment and let me know.
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