One Simple Thing You Can Do Today To Improve Communication In Your Relationship

If there’s one relationship issue every couple can relate to, it’s the communication struggle.

Whether it’s the difficulty of getting on the same page about things, or just not feeling heard and understood, we’re all familiar with wanting to improve our connection with our partner through better communication.

But there’s one thing a lot of the complaints I hear from couples who feel this way have in common. Majority of the time, the complaint is with the way their partner communicates.

"She gets distracted too easily."

"He always misunderstands what I say."

"She gets defensive when I bring up an issue."

One Thing

What If I told you there’s one simple thing you can do today to improve the communication in your relationship, whether your partner wants to change or not?

That thing is to simply take responsibility for how you communicate.

What does that mean?

Well, whenever you can’t seem to get through to your partner, do you get upset that they’re not listening enough? Or do you take a moment to consider how you could have communicated your thoughts and feelings better?

Most of us focus on what our partner could do better, and as a result, end up frustrated that they either don’t get it, or they keep forgetting to actually make the change the next time around.

When you think about it, it’s a pretty selfish way to communicate. To assume the only room for improvement is on the part of your partner. At the end of the day, communication is a two-way street.

Focus On What You Can Control

And while there’s nothing wrong with asking your partner to listen better, the first step to improving communication is to focus on the part you can actually control; how well you deliver the message.

For instance, if you know you can be a bit long-winded at times, instead of pushing your partner to just be more patient with you, try to be a bit more concise in how you express yourself. Even the most patient listener will struggle to sit through every detail of how your day went.

Or, instead of asking your partner to not be defensive when you bring up an issue, try to avoid using absolutes like ‘you always’ or ‘you never’, and be more accurate in how you describe the problem.

There are so many little things you can tweak to improve how you communicate. The key is to humble yourself and realize you’re not perfect. Once you get comfortable doing that, you’ll begin to see plenty of opportunities to do better.

And when you do better, your relationship will get better.

So what are your thoughts? How can you improve your communication in ways that will improve your relationship?

Leave a comment and let me know!